Work is hard! Where is resilience?

What’s your strategy for building resilience at work?

Your Rant: I remember when work was really easy. These days everything seems like it’s a pain. The problem is that I feel like I’m becoming less resilient. Any thoughts on how I can become better able to handle all the garbage at work?

911 Repair:

One of my dad’s proudest moments occurred shortly after he had most of his stomach removed because of an ulcer. His doctor told him that he needed to quit drinking, so my dad went out and proudly downed 13 Manhattans.

My dad enjoyed 86 years of drinking and smoking. So when I think of resilient I think of him. My dad was born with his resilience, but the good news is that we can all learn how to be more resilient. I’ve listed some strategies below. For more, check out Maddi and Khoshaba’s book, “Resilience at Work” (Amacom, 2005). The book is based on a 12-year study of Illinois Bell Telephone employees during a time when the company was downsized by almost half.

Are you committed? There is more resilience when a job warrants full attention, imagination and effort. It is easy to be committed to a job you love. It’s more challenging to commit to a job that has challenging bosses, colleagues or customers. I’m not saying that you need to love something you dislike, simply that as long as you remain in a job it makes sense to try to make the best of it.

Do you feel a sense of control? Many people write to me about jobs that make them feel totally powerless. Some jobs will do that to you. But there are often opportunities to gain some small sense of control by serving on a task force, agreeing to tackle a difficult problem, etc. There are often opportunities to assert yourself but you usually have to go looking for them, they won’t come looking for you.

Do you accept challenges? Often the bigger the challenge, the more room you’ll have for mistakes and failures. So I always would gravitate to the really tough problems, figuring that I’d get a longer leash for agreeing to tackle them. That said, I’m not big on suicide missions. But often if you look hard enough you just may find situations where a particular assignment isn’t as tough as people make it out to be.

Do you have allies? I’m a big believer in having people watch my back at work. How can you make this happen? Start watching other people’s backs. It’s amazing how many people will repay your support by looking out for you.

Do you maintain a sense of humor? I’m not suggesting that everyone should be a stand-up comic. But I do believe that everyone should be able to laugh at themselves, your co-workers, your boss and your company. A sense of humor is the most important tool that I’ve found for overcoming the workplace blahs.

Follow these tips and you might not live any longer, but at least you’ll probably die with a smile on your face.

911 pulse:

What is the most important part of being more resilient at work?

Not trying at all, 13.2 percent

Trying softer, 31 percent

Trying harder, 55.7 percent

User strategy:

Our winning strategy for being resilient comes from R.L. in Toronto: “My strategy for a positive performance review is to know exactly what I want to ask for from my boss. Too many employees go into these session begging for whatever they can get. My philosophy is that I’m doing a great job, so I don’t leave it up to my boss to connect the dots. I tell them exactly what I want in return for my performance. And I’ve yet to be disappointed.”

Bob Rosner and Sherrie Campbell author the nationally syndicated workplace911 column weekly. Bob’s a best-selling author and award-winning journalist who has responded to over 50,000 emails from employees, bosses and entrepreneurs. Sherrie’s a relationship expert and award-winning comedian who has offered quick, intuitive and humorous responses to over 30,000 people. He’s been called “Dilbert, with a solution.” She’s the counselor with a kick. Together they’ve turned rants into raves via TV, radio, print and live on their website at workplace911.com.